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METHOD TA ’ ARUF

Deliberate I inscribe this writing, gift for FB's friends I that be ta ’ aruf, or one will do ta ’ aruf Islami's ala. Also divides couple already have once done ta ’ aruf Islami,this writing gift I devote as reminiscence that most beautiful one have once am passed through erstwhile. I praise hopefully Allah SWT always makes easy and smoothen ta ’ aruf Islami that be or will happen. For couple already do ta ’ aruf Islami, hopefully eternal its nuptials, until death which come to pieces we of our couple. Aamiin  

Then how methods we ’ aruf Islami that right that its following most composes sakinah mawaddah warohmah's family,:

1.Doing Istikharoh with sekhusyu khusyunya
After ikhwan gets data and photograph, does istikharoh with all the best, that SWT'S Allah give the best one answer. In does istikharoh this, don't there is trend before on candidate that given unto by we. But ikhlaskanlah all result it on God SWT. Straighten our intention, that we get married really want aptly form family that sakinah mawaddah warohmah. Someone usually get something according to what does diniatkannya.  

 2.Determining meet Schedule (ta ’ aruf Islami)
After Ikhwan does istikharoh and marks sense heart stability, therefore segerlah reports on Ustadz, then Ustadzpun gives data and photograph to Ustadzah (akhwat's teacher), and gives ikhwan's data and photograph that to Akhwat. Usually akhwat which really was ready, Godwilling istikharoh's afters also shortly reports to Ustadzahnya. Then soon meet schedule rule ta ’ aruf that. Can be done on the house Ustadzah Akhwatnya. Really ideally counsellor second also attending, as sign as affection and attention to mutarabbi (students). Ought to meet schedule to be adjusted its time, that all can be present, choose Sunday day, since off-day.

3.Dig up profuse question
After meets, ought to been adjoined Ustadz and Ustadzah, then mutually gets to ask profuse, yes can begin from person data, family, hobby, disease that is suffered, vision and mission about family. Usually on this phase, well ikhwan and also akhwat rather cattish and grogi, are understand of not know previously. But with nun [of] time, all wills be molten. Counsellor role also indispensable to thaw atmosphere. So don't appear stiff and over serious. Needed by wag soul, easy going but serious regular.
Please good ikhwan and also akhwat mutually asks profusely, don't reluctant, on this phase. Usually even question will be adrift. 

4.Determining ta's time ’ aruf with akhwat's family       
After does ta ’ aruf and digs up profuse questions, and ikhwan's party feels to mark sense vision and mission compatibility with akhwat, therefore ikhwanpun shortly decides to do ta ’ aruf goes to akhwat's house, to get acquaintance with family outgrows. This even was known by Ustadz and also Ustadzah of second clefts party. So really all shall ever be communicated, that its following its result also good. Don't walk own. Better while comes bersilaturahim to go to akhwat's house, Ustadzpun adjoins ikhwan as endearment a teacher to its student. But if really Ustadz is booked up and available da ’ whew that can't be left, can just ikhwan adjoined by pengajian's friend another. But remembers,ikhwan don't single-handed coming, to avoid calumny and to differentiate with others that popularly at society with terminology ’ ngapel ’ (pacaran).
Ought to ideal time for silaturahim to go to akhwat's house on evening, usually more relax. But just can managed by both of party, when is the most time duly to silaturahim that. 

5.Family Ikhwanpun may invite silaturahim akhwat goes to its house
In term gets married without pacaran, are fairly if ikhwan's oldster wants to know its son-in-law candidate (akhwat). Therefore validity validity only, if ikhwan's oldster wants to get acquaintance with akhwat (its son-in-law candidate). Better while comes to ikhwan's house, akhwatpun is not alone, to avoid its happening calumniates. In this case can just akhwat accompanied by Ustadzahnya or friend even pengajiannya as sign as attention and affection on mutarabbi.

6.Determining Khitbah's Time
After its happening silaturahim second clefts party, and have available vision and mission compatibility from ikhwan and akhwat even with family besanya, therefore jangalah gets long time. Shortly determines when time for mengkhitbah akhwat. Interval among ta ’ aruf with khitbah, better is not too long, for fear evokes calumny.

7.Time determinative and nuptials place
Thus principally all day and moon in Islamic is good. So avoids to look for date and good moon, for fear fall towards syirik. Do nuptials accord that modelled by Rasulullah SAW, which is simple, inviting orphan, come to pieces among man and woman guest, bride woman not bertabarruj (dress up),food and drink not also overacting.  

Hopefully by carries on method ta ’ aruf Islami's alae upon, Godwilling will form family that sakinah mawaddah warohmah … one becomes hungering each good moslem family at the world and also at eternity.
teriring is my devout invocation to ikhwah and akhwat fillah what do will pass off nuptials I utter ” Baarokallahu Laka Wa Baaroka ’ alaika wajama ’ a bainakumaa fii khoirin..
And divides my best friend that haven't gotten married, teriring is devout invocation of my heart, hopefully Allah SWT gives the best one couple for all good at the world and also at eternity.. Aamiin is Robbal's yes ’ nature